Maximizing Your Potentials (Young Men)
submitted sunday 24 february 2014 by Naomi /s/Romance    report abuse

Hello all!

Happy Friday/weekend to you all.

Hmmm. I really do not know how best to put this in order not to offend sensitive people struggling with low self-esteem, arouse the anger of people who find it difficult comprehending write-ups at first glance, and ever skeptical ones who like to feel there is a not-so-noble motive behind posts.

I will try sha. Even if it's only one or two people I can communicate with here, if I can end up inspiring and motivating them, I will be very happy. Ladies can also benefit from this too.

It makes me shudder each time I come here and keep seeing so many "I earn 70k and I want to get married" "My girlfriend is pregnant and I don't have money" "Should I marry her now or wait till I get more money" (and the most annoying of all) "Ladies can you marry a jobless man" threads.
I keep wondering, Really what's happening with our young men of today? What happened to that "I must make it" drive that guys of the 90s had? Yeah, I know the economy has been pretty harsh and all that. No jobs anywhere, etc. But is that enough reason to throw your potentials out of the window?

University students please take note of what the following points (this works better when you have an early start in life):

Now how do you go about this?

First of all you need to start telling yourself this every morning; "I must make it in life"

Next, have a clear goal. Search within yourself to know what your strengths are. What do you enjoy doing? How profitable can it be in your area?

As for you graduates looking for jobs, Look around you, what do people need most? How can you be of help to them? Do some proper research. Let me tell you something, Nigeria is a goldmine. It is a place where you can take advantage of so many situations whether good or bad. An example is generator business. There are things you can start with as little as N20k. I'm sure you will not have a rob a bank to raise 20k nau! Just start now to do your research, ask around and take notes, there must be something people have need for in your area that may not even require up to N20k to venture into.

When you have been able to answer that question, begin to plan how you intend solving their problem. Be calculated, precise, and on point. This will prevent your business from failing after a few attempts.

Look around you again, some of you have rich or well connected relatives or friends. Swallow your pride and start to get close to them now! They could help you get a job or connect you to people you can supply things to or run errands for (business) it's easier than giving out money. Even if it's only one person they introduce you to for business, grab that one contact with all your heart! the key to this is prayer. Pray for God to touch their hearts to assist you.

Some of you get jobs of less than 200k salary and then you relax because for your mind now, you don become big boy abi? smh
If you already have a job, please invest with your salary, start an SME business you can be doing on the side. Don't ever feel too comfortable in one spot for more than 2 years and never ever rely on only one source of income.

Never you ever loose focus of where you want to be in life. Never. Henceforth your everyday motto should be "If I can think it I can do it"

If you keep yourself busy with the above things, thinking about marrying one girl when you can hardly provide good shelter for a small family of 2 kids, will not be one of your worries.

NB: I am NOT saying you need to become a millionaire before thinking of marriage and babies, but having goals and ambition will make sure you do first things first. It will help you set priorities and know what and how to do things better at the right time.

Don't get too excited when a girl seems to be ready to marry you if you have little or no money. Ladies of nowadays, Ladies that are 26 years and above, are more interested in being Mrs somebody than in finding a rich boyfriend. They just want to get married and hope that e go better one day. That's all. There are more and more ladies who are willing to pay the bills these days. Some are just desperate for some But after the wedding, when the real marriage issues starts to rear their ugly heads, you'll understand me better. However, If you have a babe that loves you as you are, do not let her go, but explain to her why you need to do first things first. If she truly loves you, she will understand.

Please guys, whatever you do for money, do not do it riding on a woman's back. That is the lowest low you can go. Believe me, it will come back to kick you in the guts when she keeps reminding you of how she picked you up from the gutter!

Be a man dammit! Stop looking for free meal tickets all in the name of wanting an "independent woman". No crime in wanting a strong woman who can stand on her own, but don't use it as an excuse to get your bills paid!

Women respect achieving men a lot more and most pray for a man that can make her and her kids comfortable. That's just the truth and I am here to tell you the truth. I won't try to massage your egos by telling you that it will get better one day and that you deserve love and respect no matter what. Yeah sure you are a human being and you deserve to be treated like one, but honey if you do not work hard, if you do not know what you want, you are not gonna go very far in life and you will be a lazy @*! not fit to sit among great thinkers if you are satisfied with that! Sorry!

Men have very potent brains. God made it that way for a reason, so use it!

God bless you all and always remember; if you can think it, you can do it!

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