The Fear Of Public Speaking Is Destroying My Life. How Do I Get Myself Back?
submitted wednesday 8 may 2014 by Naomi /s/Health    report abuse

Dear PChocos, i believe this saying "that a problem shared is halved solved" i am a young guy full of hopes and dream, but i realized i have a problem, this is the reason i am calling for your advice.

I got to understand that i am good academically, quick in understanding, fast in calculation, it takes me little effort to open a book and grab the whole points, you find me among the best when it comes to academic activities, but i always get scared when it comes to public speaking, public speaking or being the center of attention always scares me to death, it's not as if i don't know what to say, but i always have these negative feelings that always resulted in extreme fear, when i say extreme, most of you will not understand, it may shock you, if i say, i fear public speaking more than death.

Sometimes i do ask myself, why am i feeling this way, there is no reasonable answer to this, yet i can't help it, while speaking the fear will translate into symptoms like, shaky voice, unreasonable comments, empty brain (forget what you planned to say) fast breathing and many too numerous to mention, this kept me away from social gatherings.

I can't even remember how many times i got humiliated and embarrassed in public trying to speak, this has changed my entire view about life, it made me hate myself and even life itself.

I never find love in any thing i do, all that exist in me is hatred, negative thoughts like, "i am incompetent", "everybody hates me"..... This has also affected my relationship with people, i find it hard to connect with people, i wish i could make you see exactly what i am passing through right now, it's damn soo.. frustrating. But, despite all these, deep inside me i know this is a challenge, it has denied me a lot of opportunity, but i want to be free, i know i can't go far with this condition.

This is the reason i am asking for your advice, this same condition has lead many to alcohol, drugs and even suicide, but how do i begin to live my own life, all along i have been living my life under the control of fear, my decisions, actions everything. I really need FREEDOM. help me out.

I can't even walk up to a girl and tell her what i feel about her even when i am dying for her. Where do i go from here?. Doctors, teachers student, have you experience this before, how do you scale through? Help a brother here.

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