HIV Positive Guy In Dilenma And Needs Your Help!
submitted wednesday 8 may 2014 by Naomi /s/Health    report abuse

Am a member of this forum but i just decided to open another user name in other to conceal my identity and i will be glad to get some good advice on how to deal with this problem.

I was shocked and almost fainted today wen i saw d result of my HIV test and since morning i haven't eaten anything because my appetite is gone and am having a terrible headache since then. This is my second HIV test because the first one i took was in 2004 wen my sister had an accident and needed a blood transfusion and my parents called me to get home immediately to help save her life and i didn't waste anytime to come home for d blood donation. I thank God that she eventually made it but one thing that struck my mind then was if in case my test shows HIV positive how am i going to deal wt it since my parents and siblings were aware of d whole thing and my parents thought that am still a virgin then because i came from a strict christian family upbringing.

I then vow to be careful from then on because i had unprotected sex with about three different girls before that and i have seen my condom burst in two different occasions with a Love Peddler i bleep in a brothel but yet i didn't get the virus, this happened around d year 2000-2004.
In the year 2006,i met this girl and we became intimate friends and we later started having protected sex but after a while i then made another mistake by having unprotected sex wt her and we both loved it since we trust each other but we didn't do any HIV test to know if we are safe. I later went for a job interview and passed and that was in 2007 a year into our relationship and my company demanded for a compulsory HIV test result from a government hospital. I didn't went for d test immediately because am not sure of myself but i know that my girlfriend was d only girl i have been having sex wt after my first test and that was my vow,to keep to only one girl.

So, what came to my mind was to ask her to do the test first because i don't want my company and my parents including my friends to know first because everyone was happy wen i got d job and i too was very happy for d job. So,she did d test and told me that it was negative and i doubted her telling her that mine was positive just to get d truth from her but she insisted in sticking to her words and even told me that she would come with the test result. She later paid me a visit and i saw d result which was negative. I ask her to repeat that and she did and it also came negative. Then she started asking me about my fidelity and i told her that i don't have any other but i later told her that its all lies that i didn't do any test and my company didn't request for it again.

I later separated wt my girlfriend and now am about settling down this year wt my new woman but she demanded for d test and i agree though we haven't had sex and since am desperate to marry this year,i told her that i will do it which i did yesterday and came this morning for d result only to b told that am HIV positive. My former girlfriend was ok because she married late last year and living happily wt her husband.

My fears now is my parents because we are only two boys remaining since our eldest died wen we are still young. All my parents hope is on me and d won't to see their grandchild and d love my fiance so well.

How am i going to break this sad news to them and my beloved fiance? And am i really positive since my former girlfriend is negative and i have been making unprotected love wt her since two years plus and never have unprotected sex since she left and i only did it once in a month and mostly un penetrative sex.

I honestly need your advice because am already dying slowly since i saw d test. Please bear with my wrong use of English, i just don't get myself now.

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Akin sunday 2 june 2014
you have to tell your family nothing more

Vital thursday 13 june 2014
The worst thing that happenes to man on earth is to deny his existence.you existence here becomes your life challenges and your approve in handling them.first sick medical advice then invite your family and break the news.make sure your mother and girl friend are well pschied before you break the news.They have the right to know