Wondering What To Do...
submitted saturday 31 march 2013 by Naomi /s/Romance    report abuse

Hi im a new member on here,
I have been with my bf 2 years in Dec, after one year together he never even bothered celebrating it with me, we are rarely ever intimate together mainly on his half, and i always feel rejected in that way and Im doing something wrong. First thing he does when he sees me is use my computer and sit on it for hours. I'm 24 and he is 36, now Im all for settling down and everything and he says he wants to but he hardly tells me how he feels about me or shows it me i am unsure what to do its gone on for too long now.
We hardly go out together or anything

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Gats24 monday 4 june 2013
Dont wonder...

Nahansy tuesday 5 june 2013
Swthart try as much as u can 2 make him sit n u talk d 2 of u... Knw wat his intentions ar n tell him urs... Life is nt difficult bt somtyms we make it. U ar nt growin younger n each day dat passes bye, u miss an uportunity 2 meet som1 great. Im nt sayin he is bad bt sit n talk it out. Rememba, luv matters alot here okay... Cheers!

Phemmy tuesday 5 june 2013
Naomi am sorry to tell u dat ur issue it not new on earth,so dont be heart broken or depresed coz i believ u r a great person,God made u for greatnes dat is why challenges will hav to manifest itself in order to test ur strenght......if a guy realy luvs u, bfore u speak he knows how u feel and he wil respect ur feelings

Onome tuesday 5 june 2013
hey dear. the male specie, like the female has to be well understood. Most times, a man prefer to keep his challenges becos he feels that discussing it with the opposite sex makes him lose his masculinity. so instead of exploding like women does, men implode. can i tell u a simple truth? you guys are just hanging out...nothing more. If he's 36 and he's not planning on settling down, or just says and not show it, then he's not ready. my dear, don't force anything on him or you'll regret it. He loves his toys and one of them is your laptop. Refuse to give it to him the next time you meet and see his reaction. Relationships should be balanced and not endured. the moment you feel as if you are doing more than the other person, its time you sit down and discuss it. And for a man who's 36.....c'mon...he should know what he wants by now. He could be scared (don't eradicate that fact), but he needs to take and make firm decisions. He's almost 40 and yet has no proper plan for marriage? chai! i will give you a candid advice, "he's not ready!" .Quit hanging out and move on with your life. And don't rush into another relationship. Take your time and enjoy singlehood. do singlehood so well that the married will consider being single. Most importantly, place God first in your decision making and free your mind. Watch God embarass you with several requests from different men. lots of love naomi.

Emyzchuks tuesday 5 june 2013
You have to under stand him well thats all u havd to do now

David tuesday 5 june 2013
hello, try to talk to him and if he doesnt change, end the relationship before he does. he might have already been tired of it and seeing someone else and if he's clean, he will come after you begging and change his way.
You dont assume in a relationship. Get to know the real fact even if it means ending the relationship because you will just be wasting your time.

Eustace tuesday 5 june 2013
I have to be honest with you. 1. i dnt think he is a very serious guy for many other reasons but the "not celebrating one year anniverssary" with you is not close to being the problem at all.Ask him a direct question, if he doesn't give a direct answer, that's it.

Eustace tuesday 5 june 2013
I have to be honest with you. 1. i dnt think he is a very serious guy for many other reasons but the "not celebrating one year anniverssary" with you is not close to being the problem at all.Ask him a direct question, if he doesn't give a direct answer, that's it.

Fred4realluv thursday 14 june 2013
well you just have to meet with him to explain why his acting that way..