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Where Can I Go To Find Good Relationship Here On Earth?
submitted friday 23 may 2015 by Young /s/Romance report abuse How to find my soulmate? Please I need advises... 
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Naomi
friday 23 may 2015
Many people feel that there's one person out there who can enrich their life in a way that no one else can. In a world as big and busy as our own, how do we increase our chances of finding this special person? And when we meet him or her, how do we know it's our soulmate? Here are a few tips to help make this tough task a bit easier. 1 You don't find love, love comes to you. If you really want to find true love forget about dating sites and party clubs, be patient. I know it's hard but be patient and as warning once you're ready to do anything for your love get ready to go through a heck lot of things. It's love, what did you think, it was gonna be easy? 2 Get yourself out there. If you expect to find your soulmate at some point, chances are you're going to have to take part in the exciting activity known as dating. No, you're not alone; yes, it can be a hassle, and occasionally more than disappointing. But dating can take a lot of forms, and with a little bit of confidence, self-respect, and creativity, can help you find the person of your dreams. *Ask your friends if they know anyone who might be a good fit for you. Your friends spend a lot of time with you and understand your likes and dislikes. Trust them to set you up with someone they feel is a good match. If you don't hit it off, have the confidence to bounce back, stay on good terms with your date, and not blame your friend. *Attend functions, socials, and reunions. Have that out-of-town seminar looming? Look at it as a chance to meet someone in the same profession and maybe hit it off. The world works in mysterious ways; the more you attend events that interest you or involve your profession, the higher your chances of meeting that special someone will be. *Make your public profile interesting, engaging, and honest. Remember, this is what people will first digest when they look at your profile. If you take the time to add interesting details about who you are and where you come from, what you like and what you find funny, chances are the right sort of person will respond. If you're dishonest in your profile, the people you meet in person will eventually figure that out and probably won't respond well. *Make a genuine effort to reach out to people. Send interesting messages, and take the time to craft an engaging message. "I noticed you're in the auto industry, what do you think of this new car model?" is much likelier to elicit a response than "Hey, what's up?" *When you decide to meet your date in person, pick a public place and keep the first date short. A public place means your date will feel safe in a social environment. Even if your date is going really well, beg off after an hour and leave time for successive dates. You'll get many chances to feel more comfortable with the individual, and you won't risk exhausting things to talk about on the first date. 3 Don't keep making the same mistakes. Dating is tough. Finding that person — much less that soulmate — who we feel understands us perfectly and meets all of our needs can take years. That's why it's important to keep growing as we date, and learn from our dating mistakes. *Don't put yourself in abusive relationships. An abusive relationship will cause you to lose trust in other people, blame yourself for other people's problems, and fall into an attitude of despair. Respect your own dignity and leave relationships in which your partner threatens you, insults you, becomes addicted to drugs, or manipulates you to get what they want. Seek a relationship expert or other professional if you suspect that you might be in an abusive relationship. *Don't fall back in with the same person you've dated and broken up with six or seven times. Psychologists say that we fall back into relationships with people we've broken up with because of comfort and familiarity: we don't have to start all over again and we know a lot already about the other person. Well, there's a reason you've broken up seven times. Probably more than one. Contrary to what they might say, your relationship probably won't change. Break the cycle and go looking for a new adventure! *Accept people for who they are, not who you want them to be. You've got all these fantasies flying around in your head about how wonderful and special your soulmate will be, and it can be easy to project those specific characteristics and features in anyone you get involved with. Unrealistic expectations can ruin a relationship, and might even chase your soulmate away. Whoever your soulmate may be, appreciate their individuality and trust that if this person is your soulmate, they'll never need to change who they are for you, just like you'll never need to change who you are for them. Part 1 of 2: Self-Improvement 1 Focus your mind. It's no secret that we're attracted to people who make us laugh, cause us to think, and are generally enthusiastic about the world. We love these people because they're interesting, smart, and passionate. In order to appeal to your soulmate, you can always improve your intellect, no matter where you stand. *Start learning about what interests you. So you like steam engines, or fashion, or psychology. Take a dive into the deep end and really study that subject you've been meaning to know more about. You don't have to be an expert, but being able to talk about interesting tidbits and crazy connections is appealing to other people and enhances your rich inner life. *Take the time to travel. You don't need to travel to Venice or Botswana if you don't have the dough or inclination; a quick weekender to that deserted ghost town or quaint city nearby will certainly do. Traveling teaches you about different cultures and enlarges your perspective on life. It also doesn't hurt when it comes to meeting new, potentially fateful, people! *Engage in debate and discussion. Debate and discussion, at local meetings, bars, or even coffee shops, will hone your ability to think critically and speak publicly. It will also help you become an anchor of your community. Be civil, thoughtful, and don't let your pride get in the way. Do not bully anyone with a different perspective into the ground! Your goal is to learn and share, not "win" the debate. 2 Hone your body. It's also no secret that physical attraction matters to potential soulmates, although probably not as much as personality and mental spark. Getting in shape and grooming your body so it looks its best is an important step in attracting the person who will love you. *Join your local gym or "Y." The goal here isn't to look like Tyra Banks or Bradley Cooper; it's to look like the best version of you, no matter who that is, and to feel energized along the way. Exercising even 20 minutes a day will improve your health, decrease stress, and increase longevity. *Pay attention to what you eat. We all have our guilty pleasures when it comes to food, and that's perfectly acceptable. But what we put into our bodies does have an effect on how we look. Try to incorporate fruits, vegetables, as well as whole grains into your diet, and drink lots of water. You'll look better, feel better, and have more energy during the day. If you need help devising an action plan for weight-loss, consult a nutritionist or doctor. *Pay attention to the way you look. Some people think that grooming is a waste of time. While it may not be the most important ritual in life, it's probably pretty important to your soulmate. So do your soulmate a favor: bathe regularly, groom your mug, and dress in clothes that flatter you. Your soulmate will thank you. 3 Express your individuality. Focus on the things that make you a wonderful human being. This step is all about following your own inner voice and conscience. Do what you want to do — within reason — and don't make any apologies for being yourself. Your soulmate will be drawn to who you are deep down inside. *Find out who you are. Some people are born knowing who they are, and others have to go on a journey of self-discovery. Whichever is the case for you, it's a good idea to right your own ship before you deal with someone else's. Find out what's important to you, what you believe in, what you like and what you dislike. Knowing these things will ultimately give you a lot of tools to find your soulmate. *Reward yourself by doing the things you really want to do. If you get a kick out of cycling, take time after work to get on your bike and barrel down those roads. There's a good chance that your soulmate will share a lot of your interests. Who knows? Maybe you'll meet them along the way. *Create art. You don't have to be an artist to create art. Art is self-expression at its barest. Art can be writing faithfully in your journal or blog, making ceramics or pottery, or building miniature models of ships. Whatever form of art you choose, put your body and soul into its creation, and don't be afraid to show it to other people. Part 2 of 2: Attitude 1 Expect the unexpected. If you're expecting your soulmate to be love at first sight, you might never find what you're looking for. So cultivate a sense of improvisation, and take pleasure in the unexpected. *Keep an open mind. People have an uncanny ability to surprise you if you give them time. Remember the old idiom: "Things aren't always as they seem." Be open to new opportunities, new places, and most importantly, new people. Part of the romance of having a soulmate is being pleasantly surprised. Who knows, you might even learn a few thing along the way! *When you meet someone who has soulmate potential, don't get carried away. It's so easy to get lost in fantasies of how awesome your relationship might be, because with those fantasies come high expectations, and sometimes expectations are unrealistic! Make it a point to remind yourself that this new person is human, which means they're not perfect. They will make mistakes, and you need to be ready to cope and forgive, rather than act shocked that the person dares to be anything but perfect. *Weather the storms. Contrary to what popular media would have you believe, meeting your soulmate doesn't guarantee you a "happily ever after." Things won't necessarily get easier when you find that special someone. In fact, things might get even harder. Ultimately, a soulmate is someone you can grow with, and the only way to grow together is to face challenges together. So put your heart and soul into a relationship, and stick with it through the ups and downs, even when you question whether it's meant to be. When you're old and content, you might look back and realize that you were with your soulmate all along. 2 Be patient. Fate doesn't work on a schedule. Your soulmate might cross paths with you when you're 8 or 80 years old. You might look forward to spending the majority of your life with your soulmate — perhaps buying a house, getting married, starting a family — but it may or may not be in the cards. One bittersweet lesson of life is that we don't know until we know. *If there's only one person in the world who can be your soulmate, what are the chances that she'll live in your town, look like the people you grew up with, or even speak the same language? It might be pretty slim. Broaden your horizons; your treat to yourself is that you have so many different people and places to explore! *A soulmate isn't always a life mate. Your soulmate will color your world no matter how old you are, so don't rush into things. Let things take their course. Don't be so eager to find a soulmate that you end up forcing the wrong person into the soulmate box, causing pain for everyone involved. The love you get from your soulmate is strong, effortless, and timeless. Tips *Be yourself. If you try to pretend to someone else then, that person you thought was the one probably has already lost interest in you because it's the not the real you. Be what you want to be. Let simply, the 'flow' guide you and before you realize, you have met the person unexpectedly who likes who you are. *While you're waiting for your soulmate, people might question why you're single. They might even imply that something is "wrong" with you if you're "still" single. Brace yourself for that kind of ignorance. Remember that you don't have to defend your being single, just like it's rude to attack the validity of someone's relationship. *Have you ever wanted or looked for something, but only found it when you stopped looking? The same principle might work for finding your soulmate. Become so busy with your life that you totally forget about meeting your soulmate and, odds are, that's when your soulmate will pop up. *Don't be too picky. If you keep holding out for the perfect person, you're guaranteed to miss out. If you're in a room full of people with similar interests, you should be able to pick out one or two people who you'd like to date--not 10, not 0. Make it a point to not leave the event without showing interest and making a connection with a few people. Warnings *Don't obsess over finding your soulmate. Coming off as needy and desperate for love is not attractive to a soulmate--or anyone else, for that matter! *There's a danger in being so idealistic that you overlook basic safety precautions and red flags. Remember that there are still hurtful people out there who will take advantage of your hopefulness and use it against you. If, for example, all your friends and family think a particular person is not a good match for you, don't brush them off. They might be onto something. *Don't confuse chemistry with destiny. When you meet someone you're intensely attracted to, everything in your body could be telling you that this is your soulmate, but that could be hormones and lust talking. Remember that your soulmate could be someone who you already know but never even considered romantically.  |
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Wills Cute
friday 30 may 2015
just pray to God for him to connect you to the right person. Naomi I love your articles |
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odonsuo stunner
sunday 21 september 2015
If you really want to find true love forget about dating sites and party clubs, be patient. I know it's hard but be patient and as warning once you're ready to do anything for your love get ready to go through a heck lot of things. It's love, what did you think, it was gonna be easy? |
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